It occurred to me yesterday that if this cycle of IVF isn't successful, I will be absolutely devestated. Seriously, I think I will just shut down. Now, this is a very dangerous thing because while the success rates are indeed very good, we are in no way guaranteed to get pregnant and have a healthy baby.
So how do I emotionally approach this upcoming IVF? On the one hand, I don't want to get crushed, but on the other hand, I do want to be excited and think positively as I do believe that helps things along. I talked to my mom and D about how they suggest I view it. The way we see it, there are essentially 3 options:
1. I can go into it expecting the worst but hoping for the best.
2. I can go into it expecting the best and worry about how I'll deal with emotional fallout if and when it becomes an issue.
3. I can try not to think about the outcome either way (yeah right!) and just try to be present for the ride.
I can think of pros and cons to all the strategies above. I'm leaning toward #2 because, well, I don't even want to consider the possibility that this IVF won't work, despite the fact that I could be playing with emotional fire.
I need your advice. What do you think I should do? If you were in my position, how you would set your emotional compass? How would you manage your expectations? Is there a 4th option I haven't considered?
I would be grateful for advice from anyone who cares to put in their two cents. Thanks in advance.